Do your part - share
November 22, 2007 – 6:00 amHappy Thanksgiving. As a parent, I think it is important for each of my girls to have their own possessions. Things they can care for and call their own. I think it is equally important for them to learn to share – first with their family and then with other children.
As the role models that have will have the most influence on our children’s lives, we have the responsibility to teach the concept of sharing by being a living example.
1. Share your love
You cannot over-do this. No matter how much you give, you can always give more.
- Teach your children how to express their love.
- Show your children how much you love them. Here’s a hint – you are not demonstrating their importance to you when you can’t find the time to spend with them.
- Constantly tell your children that you love them and that they are important to you.
- Be involved in their lives – who are their friends? what are your children’s dreams? how are they planning on achieving their dreams? what is your role and involvement in their future?
- Be affectionate with your spouse/partner – this shows your children that they are in a loving and therefore safe family environment and goes a long way to establishing their self esteem.
2. Share your time
When you say that you love someone, you are telling them verbally that they are important to you. You spend time enjoying/doing the things that you believe are important. What you do says so much more that what you say.
- Read to your children – if you begin this when they are newborns, your child will have a huge head start in their education. Statistics have shown that children who are read to do better in school than their contemporaries who were not read to.
- Play with your children – they grow way too fast so give them every reason to want to spend time with you as they mature and become adults.
3. Share your experience
You have faced some unique experiences, but the principles that they teach are universal. Mentor someone. Simply making yourself available to a young person can result in a wide range of questions about your life and experiences.
- Explain your successes and failures – What were your good decisions?
- What would you do differently? - Where did you miss an opportunity? Why did you miss an opportunity?
- Do you know someone who would be valuable for this person?
- Share the secrets of your success – What did you do that was unique and played a role in your success?
4. Share your dreams
People like to know what inspires and motivates you.
- Why did you do this or that?
- Were you scared? excited? hesitant?
- What do you visualize?
- Why are you so confident?
5. Share your ideas
This is hard for the majority of people because they refuse to believe that we live in a world of abundance. They think that everything is a “zero sum” game, meaning that in order for them to win then someone else must lose. This is a fallacy. There is plenty for everyone.
- You will have more ideas than you can ever hope to exploit – tell someone what they are, maybe they can start on one of them now. Besides that, you have just endeared yourself to someone and created the need for them to reciprocate. They will do their best to repay you, somehow.
- Be a part of a “master mind”. This is a group of like-minded people who meet for the purpose of growing. The individuals that make up this group can be as varied as you like, but they must share a similar need to succeed. Share your ideas with them and watch how they morph into “great” dreams.
Sharing is not about letting someone use your stuff. It’s about being involved in the lives of others – developing relationships, partnerships and friendships. Share your life.
How is your shoulder performance and flexibility?
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