Who’s to blame?

July 23, 2007 · Posted in Change, Choices, Motivation, Negativity, Self-help, Success

GUEST WRITER: Scott Kay – inventor of the Rotater

It seems to me that people are constantly searching for someone to blame for their current situation in life. I mean really – there has to be somebody responsible for me being where I am in my life right now.

There are so many potential candidates. Could it be:

MY PARENTS? – Were they too strict or were they too lenient? Or maybe it’s because they were abusive or alcoholics or in jail and left me alone to be raised by a single parent or perhaps no parent at all. Maybe it’s because of the whole “broken” home issue or because we were poor. No, it can’t be for any of those reasons because of the simple fact that there have been successful people who have come from homes and families with these same problems !
MY EDUCATION? – Could it be the fact that I went to a public school or a private school? Perhaps it was because my school was segregated or integrated. It was probably because my teachers didn’t like me and the principal had it in for me. No, that can’t be it. Other people have become successful – some without even having a high school diploma!
THE GOVERNMENT? – It has to be the government. It is the republican’s fault for taking my money and giving it to the wealthy. No, no, it’s the democrat’s fault for taking my money and giving it to the poor. I know, it’s that the tax laws are written for the rich or the fact I don’t qualify for government assistance. No, it can’t be for any of these reasons, because someone, somewhere has overcome all these obstacles and succeeded.
BECAUSE OF “WHO” I AM ?– It must be my color, or my heritage. Maybe, I’m too tall or too short, too fat, or too skinny, too old or too young. No, because old, short, fat immigrants have come to this country, not knowing our language or culture, flat broke and they have still become successful as have young, tall, skinny immigrants!
MY JOB? – That’s what it is. I need a job – a better job. My boss hates me. I never get promoted. I don’t have a 401k and my co-workers are holding me back. No, that can’t be the problem either, because people have been fired from a job and have still become successful!

I could go on and on, listing all the possible culprits that are conspiring to “keep you down”, but let me break it down for you. Are you ready? THE PERSON TO BLAME, THE ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR CURRENT SITUATION, IS READING THIS ARTICLE, RIGHT NOW.

Don’t look around to see who is reading over your shoulder. I’m talking to you. You are responsible for where you are in your life. Now for the good news – YOU ALSO CONTROL WHERE YOU WILL GO AND WHAT YOU WILL BECOME FROM THIS POINT ON.

Stop looking for someone to blame and start focusing on what you can do, what you can become and where you can be. If others have come from circumstances that are worse than the situation that you are in, and have become successful, then why can’t you?

Excuses are abundant – but that’s what they are. They are the words that you use to try to excuse yourself from being what you can be. It’s all about YOUR choices – nothing else really matters.

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One Response to “Who’s to blame?”

Brad on July 23rd, 2007 10:05 pm

This article is so true, so many out there are looking for someone to blame for their situation in life. People look for success in all the wrong places, when all they have to do is to look in the mirror. One of my best friends told me a long time ago, “if you don’t believe in yourself, who will”. These words have stuck with me since the 6th grade. I will always remember them and know that the power is within me to make MY future.